Learn to take a compliment

11 Aug

I’ve never been good at taking compliments. Just this morning I arrived at work and my work colleague said, “Gosh, your hair looks good.” My response, “No it doesn’t.” How about, “Thanks”? Why can’t I take a compliment?

Even when I agree that my hair does look good or my top is nice and floaty I sometimes say thanks and then think to myself…They don’t really mean it. They are just being nice.

Is it that in Australia we are raised to be humble? We’ll do anything to avoid seeming up ourselves and if a celebrity appears too big for their boots we’re happy to rip them to shreds too just to remind them that they aren’t all that. Why, why, why?

When I look back at photos of myself from six years ago I think I looked pretty decent but even then I always thought I was too wrinkly, too fat, too…whatever. I wish my inner voice was my best friend, not a mean girl. Maybe then I’d be able to take a compliment and allow myself to feel okay. Why is the bad stuff easier to believe?

My friend said she liked my eye makeup the other day and I brushed her off. “It’s just a quick job,” I said. In truth, I’d spent twenty minutes following instructions trying to get it right. Why didn’t I take the credit?

And a young friend who has asked me to help her get a job recently commented that I motivate her because I’ve done so well. “No I haven’t,” is my immediate response.

My default setting is clearly set to negative and even the thought of basking in any sort of flattery leaves me feeling a little queasy. What if they think I’m up myself? What if they think I love myself?

Life would be way more fun if we ran our personal lives like those of sporting heroes. If I’m having a good hair day I’d like to be able to shake up some champagne and let the roses be thrown at me, figuratively speaking. I’ve lost a couple of kilos? Yes, yes I have. It took constant and consistent chocolate-depravation but aren’t I amazing? I’ve achieve a lot in my career. Yes, it was hard, but I got there, thanks, thanks heaps.

Compliment = thank you = feeling of satisfaction or achievement. We are allowed to feel good about ourselves!

One Response to “Learn to take a compliment”

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