Paranoia keeps kids safe

12 May


The video above is very hard to watch.

A father in China jumps out of his moving car to rescue his baby girl who has fallen out of their car.

These thing happen. When you become a parent you soon realise that no matter how hard you try, you children are going to be in danger from time to time, and you’ll never forget those moments of horror.

The day that stands out for me is the day my little boy almost fell out of a car.

It was my eldest son’s birthday. I had a car full of children so my mum was driving my little boy. They were following close behind us and behind them was my sister and her boyfriend. It was raining, hard. I was driving carefully and we were almost home. I kept glancing in my rear view mirror to check my mum was still behind me when I saw the back door of her car open and close. It was raining hard so I thought I was seeing things. I thought perhaps mum was opening and closing her door because it wasn’t closed properly. Then it happened again.

I pulled over in a live lane, forcing her and my sister to pull over too. It wasn’t the best spot but I had to secure that back door. If my son could open and close the door he could undo his seat belt. I pictured him falling out of the car.

I ran out and told her what was happening. We locked the door and kept driving home.

But I was scared. What if he unlocked the door? What if he fell out?


I hit the car in front of me.

It wasn’t a high-speed accident and thankfully no one was hurt and the damage was minor. We pulled over and I told my mum to take my son home. All I could think of was that I wanted him home safe and out of that car.

My sister and her boyfriend had apparently seen it all happening. They noticed my son opening and closing the back door of the car. My sister asked her boyfriend if she should ring me to tell me and he said, “Don’t, she’ll have an accident.” They rang me anyway and we locked the door but I was so totally freaked out. My mind kept seeing him falling out!

Having children can be terrifying. I remember the time my son wasn’t quite in a car and it started reversing down the driveway and how I yelled. I remember when he slammed his fingers in the door and how I ran. I remember his first severe allergic reaction and how helpless I felt as the doctors worked on him. I remember my baby falling from her chair and how I caught her awkwardly and we both cried with fear and relief.

Being a mother is amazing and terrifying. The movie reel in my head each night as I try to go to sleep is a horror movie of ways my children can be taken, maimed or killed.

Paranoia keeps children alive. If it weren’t for these thoughts in my head who knows what would happen. I try to think of my fear as a gift. It’s my biological instinct to protect my children and I know what to do because of these thoughts that I have.

I don’t want to live a life of fear and suspicion. I think of it more as a little mum on my shoulder, urging me to be careful. Then, once I’ve done all I can to keep my children safe, we live our life and hope for the best.

Have a great Mother’s Day tomorrow. As Oprah always said, “Being a mother is the hardest job in the world, when it’s done right”. Damn right!

La Dolce Vita – Jo Abi


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