When Harry Met Sally

15 Oct

When Harry Met Sally came out in 1989. I was thirteen. I didn’t watch it until I was older, when my parents added a video shop to their corner grocery store and I found it in the weekly rentals section. I loved the movie from the beginning. As a teenager I was drawn to movies that showed people finishing tertiary education and setting up their lives. I was fascinated with Sally who wanted to be a journalist and made this happen for her by moving toNew York. Being successful and independent was a dream of mine. The bravery required to take real steps into adulthood impressed me repeatedly.

When I watched the movie again today, I found myself reflecting how I reacted to the movie as a teenager compared to how it affects me now. I always remember the scene where Sally is upset that her ex is getting married. She talks about how she’s going to turn forty someday and Harry reminders her that she isn’t turning forty for another eight years. I used to think thirty-two was so old. I couldn’t ever imagine being in my thirties. Now I am thirty-five, older than Sally when she experiences her crisis. But I am comforted by the fact that I am married with children already, where as she is still searching and doesn’t even know that in a moment she will realise her best friend is her true love.

Watching a movie as a teenager tends to leave you contemplating what kind of life you’d like to have. Movies can be inspiring in this regard and you will think of them often as you construct your life. When you watch them after you have set up some sort of life for yourself outside of your parent’s home, the movies make you reflective. You look back at what you thought you’d achieve and where you ended up.

Working Girl from 1988 with Melanie Griffith and Sigourney Weaver is another movie that does this to me. I always wanted to be a smart and sassy working girl. Reflecting back, I think about the fact that I have never held a nine-to-five office job like I thought I would. All my jobs have involved irregular hours and could have been done in track pants. That’s the beauty of radio.

Movies play such an important role in people’s lives. Just as music can take you back to significant moments in your past, movies can remind you of dreams you had, hopes for the future and remind you of how far you’ve come or how life is all about change. Planning is impossible. Allowing dreams and ambitions to change and develop can lead you a life that is even better than what you imagined.

There is no room for regrets in life and life isn’t over until it’s over. I certainly ended up on a different path that what I thought I would and that’s not bad. And it isn’t over yet. Even though raising three young children hits the pause button on any plans I had for myself, I know I can still aim for the life I always wanted and appreciate the experiences I’ve had so far.

La Dolce Vita – Jo Abi

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